I thought I was 'helping' my wife after childbirth. Truth is, I was missing out on being a father

When Dr. Xander Ong became a father in twenty twenty-three, he thought his job was to help—help his wife, help with the children, pitch in where needed. But after a few years, he had a realization: he'd been missing the actual work of being a dad. According to Channel NewsAsia, Ong has discovered that caring for your children isn't a task to complete. It's a relationship to build. The shift is subtle but profound: it moves you from the margins of your children's lives into the center of them.

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